day 12 the love dare

pg with pearce at one of beau's graduations

day 11 went great! Beau still has no clue about the dare but really i say it went great cause it only took me a couple of hours to finish my dare. Lately its been taking a few days so i was excited. I knew exactly what he would need after a long day of playground building (a back message). He was thrilled, I never offer backrubs....ever. My teeny hands just get tired/bored after 5min and I never seem to get one in return so i gave up years ago. I must say it feels great to do it with no hope/expectation, much like our love is intended to be, it was a decision making it a bit more fun. I have to admit part of the fun is that I'm keeping it a secret. One day Ill spill the beans but the right day just hasnt popped up and so far my lips are sealed!





day 12 Love lets the other win :)

Do not merely look out for your own interests, but also for the interests of others=== Philippians 2:4

When I think about these, atleast initially it seems easy. Im not competitive, typically if you try and compete with me I will back out of the competition as soon as I realize there is one. Id say that stems from the fact that a. I dont like to lose and b. I loathe the anxiety of any competitive relationship.  Either through natural reaction (aka God's help) or a conscious change in my behavior aimed at a change in the relationship, I can say happily that I have very few relationships that are of a competitive nature. Certainly (fantasy football excluded) we dont have much competition within our marriage. I know some love it, need it, whatever, but for me competition=stress.............of course, that is not the only time Love lets the other win :)

You know those times when you are being stubborn? Stubborn is great btw , when you are talking about your beliefs,principals,values and morals......not so much when we are talking what shoes you will wear to church, paint colors, or whether to get a swingset or a trampoline. Digging your heels in on something unimportant is just a way to hurt your partner.

Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus -Philippians 2:5

In other words, remember those rubber band WWJD bracelets from the nineties? When hanging out with the hubby, put on your imaginary bracelet. Will the marriage be  permanently changed if you have steak instead of chicken? nope, but will it be changed if you accidently hurt feelings in the process of deciding? maybe, and is it worth it? def not! I'm certain Jesus wouldnt fight with the disciples over what weekend activities they would participate in.

"The wise and loving thing to do is to start approaching your disagreements with a willingness to not always insist on your way"

Your differences make your relationship better and more interesting as long as they arent used to hurt one another. Sometimes you will get your way, only if you are willing to sometimes not.

today's dare

Demonstrate love by willingly choosing to give in to an area you are disagreeing on, tell them you are putting their preference first.