i was supposed to make a good/bad comparison list for my hubby and i finally finished it. ill share a bit of it with you :)
good= very kindhearted , yes even more than me
hard worker (the lazy don't fare long in his line of work)
spontaneous and fun
adventuresome , id still be shopping for fun on the weekends if not for him
never jealous
loving, affectionate
a non-complainer ( i cant stand complainers)
great teeth lol no cavities in 31 years
handsome, strong, brave
patient, this man takes children golfing, lets them build retaining walls, always welcomes a helper
always sees the best in others, even when i cant
bad= too into his iphone
never helps with bathtime, well, im sure he will help with mine, but i mean the kids lol
procrastinator, i might be projecting on this one but we are two peas in a pod
snores, like really really LOUD, my dad did it and i never thought anyone could top him, till i met DH
is stinky, like ever other male human
no grill, technically its my fault because my dog killed the grill, but i do love a man with a grill
he is currently tuning me out
and for all my babywearing friends, he cant/wont wrap and still wears a frame pack
Day 8
Love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave, It burns like blazing fire- song of Solomon 8:6
Today is about jealousy. When it is right, and when it is not so right. You see, there are two types, legitimate and illegitimate. The first is a jealousy born of love. God is described as having this for us. He isnt jealous that we are here on earth (he could be) or of our material possessions (he could have em) but he is jealous when we turn our affections away from him, just as a husband is if his wife is giving her affections to another. Im fortunate that Beau and I haven't had this issue. Long ago a friend of mine shared with me a rule between she and her husband. Neither of them are alone with a member of the opposite sex, or have opposite sex friends. Not out of mistrust, but born of accountability. Thanks to this rule she was never the victim of rumors or the gossip that run rampant in the military community, and with lengthy separations, destroy many marriages. I adopted her rule, as did my husband, and we haven't had a problem in this area. Im so thankful for this, and for that friend :)
The other type is a jealousy born of selfishness. "It has been said that people are fine with you succeeding, just as long as you don't succeed more than they have". I find this so true in so areas. My kids are jealous of who is doing better in school, who got what, who is bigger. Moms become jealous of other mothers achievements and those of their children. And of course there is always the whole "keep up with the Jones' " mentality that has driven the average american thousands of dollars into credit card debt.
Even in Biblical times, jealousy was everywhere. Sarah sent away Hagar because she could bear children while Sarah could not. Joseph's brothers sold him as a slave. Jesus was more popular than the priests, so they crucified him.
Sometimes this transfers over into a couples relationship. She is at home with the kids while he is out at golf. She spends hundreds on her hair while he struggles with the budget. But love should always put others first, and push jealousy aside. Love , humility, and gratefulness can destroy jealousy and its bff resentment. All you have to do is let it!
todays dare
Become your spouses biggest fan and reject any jealous thoughts. Burn yesterdays negative list then share with your spouse how glad you are about a recent success of theirs.
wow that sounds easy enough, i guess i know what to do with the other half of my list now lol
Highpoint Church taught us to not be alone with a member of the opposite sex. It is something they asked the entire church to do. The leaders of the church set good examples. It is something they instill in the youth. I have heard how the teens in the youth group will go out of their way so that one boy and one girl are not alone together. It is a great principle to live by!
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